23 April 2012
Being a young adult generally I would find myself thinking about marriage. Not in detail but the few aspects which are important to me personally. While most girls dreamed about the flower arrangements, deco or the bridal dress, none of that ever crossed my mind yet. Well except for the dress since I think it's really vital I find a great muslimah-friendly dress :) But the things that cross my mind is the expenditure and the photos that will be taken. Being raised in a family with tight financial security where we would only indulge in certain luxuries once we have set aside our savings, it's natural for me to start thinking how much everything is going to cost me. The plan goes that with an engineer's income (Insyallah) I will be able to afford a simple wedding without having to ask my parents for extra money. Because lets face it, if you can't even afford your own wedding how are you gonna afford a marriage? A lot of wedding ceremonies in the Malay community is too extravagant for my liking. People spend hundreds of thousand ringgit just for one event that everyone's going to forget in a week. And Islam has never encouraged we waste our money for unnecessary things. I'll have a simple wedding probably and spend a fair amount of money on the deco and gifts for guest. But I don't mind spending extra money for food and drinks since I've always believed that the greatest part of any event people look forward to, is the food! When I see people having engagement ceremonies with 'kompang', a dais, hotel style food, exchanging poems between the families, I think they're a waste of time and money. You might as well get married and save the money for your new house or car or children's education. I hope I never become one of those stressed up brides who's only concern is the wedding and not the marriage itself. In Islam, we believe that a wedding reception is only to announce our nuptials, never as a means to show off our wealth even if we could afford it.
Another thing I'm concerned with is my wedding photos! I want those timeless natural shots of the wedding day including black and white shots. None of those really disturbing over-edited shots of bride and groom with dramatic background, or those with washed out effects. Not really my type of pictures. Being a photographer I've thought about this for a while and after seeing some amazing work by international wedding photographers, you can never go wrong with natural post-processing pictures :)
I guess I have covered a bit of what my wedding will be like in a few years, if God willing. But it is the parts where I am concerned about and will bring a huge impact to my life later on...
Oh, I almost forgot another important part of the wedding.
The groom.
Still pending I think.
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