26 May 2012
When looking at lesbian culture I have established that there is an amazing undercurrent of judgmental views and opinions, yet 'we' as a whole, do not like to be judged.
Is it just that we do not like to be judged by others, yet feel its OK to judge each other within our culture?
I find there are more brands' of lesbian, than coffee, but what defines these brands'? One could be quite deep and say it was all about the girl's personality, how they act and compose themselves. When really, its all about body size, shape and clothing. We judge a girl on reputation and ability to act within her 'brand' but we label her on her style and her build.
Butch girls are generally bigger, broader and wear more masculine clothing, but then boyish girls wear the same and are only classed as boyish because of their frame.
In such a hypocritical land of lesbian labeling, I try to work out where exactly I figure. Where on their little labeling scheme is there a box for a girl who switches from boy fit jeans, studded belts and funky tops to skirts, dresses, and god forbid Heels!
In the not so far future I can see packages being developed for the newly out lesbian. These packages will contain the following items; A diva subscription, dental dams, wrist bands, a Gay-Dar profile and a book titled ' lesbian erotica ' will there also be a leaflet explaining the 'brands'? because for those who are new to lesbian life and are still finding themselves, it can be hard to work out.
My advice would be not to care, but then that is easier said than done. Confusion and excitement about actually being out and proud can bleed into what I call the 'statement stage'. Wearing rainbow wrist bands, shaving your head and shouting I would like the big mammoth book of lesbian erotica please' in your local book shop does not make you anymore of a lesbian, yet so many girls seem to go through that stage trying to find themselves, trying to fit into some sort of box, or be stamped with some sort of label. Is this because they perceive the lesbian world as judgmental or because there is some instinct that says they need to fit into a category to be accepted?
Practicing what we preach shouldn't be so hard. If a straight man was to make a statement judging the lesbian community, we would be up in arms, and often are. Yet we feel so compelled to judge our own that it increases the confusion and hardship of coming out in the first place.
Come out, be proud, be thrown to the wolves, welcome to the land of the lesbian'.
Boo Rawrs x
Life, Labels And Lesbians • Opuss № I