Should I Tell or Wait?

If you wait any longer you might lose her completely. Take her out on a date, write her a poem and tell her how you feel in it if you can't confess directly. Take the jump, @zaakee

@milkeyedmender I want to do all those. I really do! but, at the moment, when she's having problems, like medically-certified problems, I can't just be selfish and make her think about "us". right? I mean, really I don't know. I am at a loss because on one hand I'm her best friend and on the other I like her. so in what capacity should I be thinking from now, especially when she needs me (her best friend) to be there, more than ever, for her during the most trying part of her life?

@zaakee you can be selfless all you want for love, surrender your entire being to be her friend but I am sure she already knows that you like her but despite that she only treats you as a friend. So you could wait all your life for this girl, but I'm telling you right now that as long as you're unhappy and longing she's going to feel it and she going to be bothered about it. You have to choose which you want to be and be that guy. A friend, or a lover.

@zaakee you have to be frank with her, as a best friend I think it is your duty to tell the truth. And she as yours, it's hers to fix you. You're her best friend and she needs you, right now you need her too, no?

@milkeyedmender I have a very good feeling that you're right. if I do tell her, what then? how do I follow up or through, if the reaction is not what I want it to be?

But @zaakee here's the toughest part, the part you have to be brave and prepare yourself for. In love or every friendship/relationship there's respect, give and take and there's also acceptance. If there is hope, pursue it if there isn't you have to be prepared to let the feelings go and move on, save yourself.

@zaakee: will hearing the bad news from her change anything?

@zaakee she'll probably be straightforward with you since you guys are friends, on your part this would be the release you have been waiting for all this time whether it's a yes or no. This is your closure.

@rumcheeks I don't think so. but I have my reservations. even though the possibility of her avoiding me is very small, it is a possibility still. and I'm also afraid that she might just act differently henceforth.

@milkeyedmender I'm finding the courage for this. thank you for your advice though. really. I mean, you need not have bothered to really advice me but you did. and I appreciate it a lot. it helps me think.

@zaakee need me to say confessing would also mean a high possibility of having adverse effect? I mean, Zack, there must have been a reason why you are not accepted at all for the longest time? The extremity of friends/lovers-- you love her because you see her, you've grown to like her parts through it all, the accumulating years of friendship. She on the other hand could have been spoilt by your kindness, you know people usually hanker after something/someone that is not easy to get. They must feel like the effort to chase should be equivalent to the subject's worth.

@zaakee it's not a problem. You're a good chap, I just hope it works out for you one way or another and butter up soon! 😄

@zaakee telling her to be with you would be safe. You loving her is safe. And safe is good. But people don't want things safe in a prior stage of relationship, the excitement wouldn't heighten if everything is predictable.

@rumcheeks that's what people tell me. I just don't get why it should be so. I personally feel that best friends are poised in a better position to fall in love. I do get what you're telling me, but I just don't like it I guess. what you say makes sense, I honestly feel so. and yeah there's the chance that I could lose her totally. but, really, I think I should at least try. she is my PIC, I think she would understand where I'm coming from. thank you for giving a different opinion. as oppose to the usual ones, this is a refreshing sequence of thoughts.

@rumcheeks I second @milkeyedmender. Know when to throw in the towel. No one should keep another waiting for too long, even luck runs out and chances get used up.

@rumcheeks I never realise that the bitter truth is really hard to swallow. I've always brushed it off. this time, it seems to cut deep into my senses and thoughts.

@zaakee now I'm deleting opuss, would be hearing whatever good news you share through @milkeyedmender. Best of luck you. A modest outing with a suitable amount of lighting and noise would be good enough for a honest confession. No need for a fanciful date, you can do that when you want to celebrate, those things dilute the point. /smiles sweetly

@rumcheeks wow that is good! thanks for the tip. @ru

@rumcheeks and hahahah! you're right, it does dilute the point. I just seem to realise it now when you mentioned it. and thank you so much, the both of you! honest to god, you guys gave me great advices. and I really need all the luck, so thank you once again there. (: