I'm not quite sure how to describe it, so I'll just call it a habit. I can't remember how it started but I also don't seem to be able to stop it. Or want to stop it for that matter; I like taking sneak peaks in people's houses when I walk past them or I'm on the bus, in the evening after work. It serves an emotional purpose and a sense of curiosity about how people 'live' in their home. I've been away from mine for about three years
and I was never very sentimental about it - except Christmas time - but it seems to have preserved the memory and heightened the senses of the smaller parts that make up a memory: the smells, the sounds, the habits; all those moments of domestic comfort that feel personal in a way. Which is why I finding seeing other people in these moments very interesting. Especially in a city like Amsterdam, where the residents seem to be in a constant battle against curtains. Walking along the canals and looking through the windows, I can see little acts of domestic life: a group of old time friends, gathered around the Sunday lunch table, sharing stories they've heard and told a thousand times before. A woman cooking, alone in the kitchen, the tall window a black frame around her. A child laughing, playing with his grandfather. For them, it's just everyday; for me it's an observation exercise that evokes emotions and memories that may or may not be mine. Or it may just be a subconscious mechanism that tries to maintain inside me, the feeling of being home.
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I quite often do a similar thing while walking from my house to visit my mother. I walk along a road of terraced houses and find it fascinating to see how differently people utilise what is essentially the same space in form and dimension, there's just a different number on the door :)
@Carl what I'm trying to say is that it can be a quite interesting exercise, seeing other people in a context -and a space- very similar to yours. Thanks for the comment :)
Glad I'm not the only one. Never really thought it something I can say I do but I am glad you posted this as its exactly how I feel.
@seefy You are definitely not the only one. I'm very glad when people can relate to how I feel and think. Thank you for your comment.
@herocks It gives me some kind of relief too, knowing I'm doing anything weird or wrong. It's hard to explain to people sometimes, they might get the wrong idea :/ Thanks so much for your comment.
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