15 July 2012
Everyone knows the definition of friendship, but just incase you didn’t:
Friendship [frend-ship] –noun
1. The state of being a friend; association as friends: to value a person's friendship.
2. A friendly relation or intimacy.
3. Friendly feeling or disposition.
To be honest, I don’t think that definition does it justice. I wasn’t always blessed with good friends but as I have grown older I have been left with some of the most amazing friends in the world. Men and women whom I admire and love so very much. None of them the same, each one special and unique in their own way (as is my friendship with each of them).
I think friendship can be described as one of the most precious gifts in the world, and probably something most people take for granted. Very few people take the time to actually asses how lucky they are; even to have one really good friend as so many people out there are not as fortunate. I think we are all guilty of it, forgetting to return a call or a text, taking to long to reply to a letter or an email, forgetting to send a Christmas card or a birthday present, or simply just leaving it so long without seeing or speaking to each other. It’s easy to do; life is so hectic sometimes it’s difficult to keep track of your own life let along other peoples. In some respects this is good. You may think I’m mad in saying that, but our neglect does do one thing, it sifts out the good friends from the bad. The good friends will still be there even if you haven’t seen them for 6 months, the bad ones, well they wont.
The thing with friendship is, its like a marriage (hell some of my friendships have spanned across more then 10 years which is longer then a lot of marriages seen to last these days) friendship takes time and effort, compromise and support. It’s not easy; you will fall out and disagree. There will be times when you feel left out and forgotten. But for all the bad times there will be a million more moments filled with smiles and laughter, memories which will be engraved into your heart for the rest of your life, while the bad ones softly fade away.
Over time you do lose friends, and sometimes there friends who at one point, you could never imagine your life without, and although its upsetting, you reach a point where you realise there is no point crying over it as real friends wont even leave. There is no point stressing over what you have lost but focus on what you have, and making sure those people realise how special they are to you and how much you love them. Life is to short, and I for one try to do everything I can to make sure the special people in my life know how much they mean to mean as you never know when it will be your last chance to say it...
Friendship • Opuss № I