Outside, Looking In

How awful. But you should tell them how you feel there may have been a reason. If not then they're not worthy of your friendship. 😞😞💪💪💚💚

Aw Kim! Horrible friends! I have friends like this,only see them

❤💔❤❤💔❤💔❤💔that's horrible hope your ok? Agree with what @eddie12309 says what their doing us not right x

When they need me,never ask if I'm ok just take take,big hug ❤😘

@eddie12309 it's a tough one Hun and its been going on years...we are a group who have been friends for a long time, a few are closer to some more than others...which has never bothered me at all...it's when major things happen, no one tells me, I always find out via a friend of a friend, or via Facebook ...but over the past year major things have happened and as always I'm last to know....I feel gradually pushed out ....the cherry on the top was finding out the funeral is today of one of the girls dads and unable to go as I couldn't get childcare sorted....I even managed to get someone to collect the kids from school and then I would take the twins just to the funeral...but on checking, no kids were allowed....just fed up of it all ....forgive me for the rant Hun 😪😪

Awww. I agree with @eddie12309 though. Sending you a big hug💪💪

@gazplend @minxyMolly it's been one thing after another...just fed up of it all....it's only one group of friends and I have others who I am more close with...but these girls I've known a long time and its tough knowing that the friendship is coming to an end 😥😥😥😥

@misslittleDHP you rant away. Maybe they didn't want you upset as they knew no kids were allowed. But yes, its not nice what appears to be happening , but you should confide in one of them. You've not had a good week. Sending mucho hugs and some spot cream. 💪💪💪💪💚💚💚

@eddie12309 I rang my best friend today, as she is part of the group too....she agreed with me...though she thinks its not their intention to hurt me...they just don't stop to think that I may like to know things such as my friend being rushed into hosp before Xmas and nearly dying, which I never found out until weeks later...😔😔

@misslittleDHP 😔😔😔 I send hugs your way it's never easy when that happens especially in a group, but the hospital thing is a bit to big to not not tell you if you know what I mean x

@eddie12309 @sarahgamal ...it may be a crappy few days but I shall not let it get to me...this girlie needs ice for the spot and my drink and some chocolate....life won't beat me with the crap it's thrown....people are in worse states than me so I shall not complain no more...😀😀😀

@minxyMolly I know Hun ....I've ignored lots over the years but some things can't be ignored....thanks Hun for your kind words 😘😘😘😘😍

Maybe you should show them this...sounds like your having a bit of a tough time lots of hugs and kisses coming your way hope you can sort it 👠👠🍸🍸🍦🍧😘😘

@sjw thanking you my sweet for your lovely comment...you are so sweet 😘😘😘😘

@misslittleDHP I hope everything turns out well soon..i don't know if it's possible to initiate a reunion but it could help patch up things..hugs from across the miles..😘😘😘

@softwhispers ....I'm just going to let the hurt subside and then try and go from there my sweet...your comments are so kind and I THANKYOU very much...big hugs back 😘😘😘

@RichWithey awww bless you my sweet...your warm hugs are gratefully received ....I think I'm going to back off and see what happens Hun....it was always me who organised our get togethers...maybe after a couple of years they'll suddenly realise I haven't been around....thanking you for your words, they indeed make a lot of sense to me....also hope you are ok, thinking of your dear dad on his birthday....big huggies babes 💪💪💪💪💪💪💋💋❤❤

Oh lady-sending you big hug 💪 To be honest though Kim, sometimes you've just gotta know when to move on. I think when people in your life start to cause you more pleasure than pain, you have to reassess who's REALLY important to you, & who actually warrants your friendship. Not easy I know, as I've been there (albeit slightly different circumstances ) & I felt so much better when that negativity was out of my life. I'm sure you'll sort it one way or another 😔😌😘😘❤💗💜

Doh - meant ' more pain than pleasure' 😖

@Fly10 .....I've had to let people go before, for the very reason you say...they brought negativity to my life, so as hard at it was I did feel better....and although I've always felt like a spare part within this group, I've allowed it to continue due to misguided loyalty...but feel its time to just move forward now...I've got friends that would do anything for me, and I'm going to focus on them instead...because my family life was lacking and dysfunctional, friendships are so very special to me.....mwah for your kind words my sweet...means a lot 💜💜💜

@Fly10 I agree, turning attention to those who really matter can only make your life happier. I know just how you feel Kim. My family is all broken up - my dad was awful, my mum an 'amoeba' (I don't really mean that too harshly, but she never took any responsibility for anything at all...). When my dad died about 2 years ago, my 2 sisters (2 out of 5 of us) didn't tell us! She waited until we found out ourselves by accident (my other sis works at the hospital he was admitted to!), then told us we had no rights, etc. She now lives in our family home while we are left with nothing - no closure at all, and my mum is going slowly dippy in an old folk's home. Sorry, that was a long story!!! Also had similar with friends too - one who constantly makes big flamboyant gestures of spending time together, then never calls me / takes my calls - next thing I see are pics on fb of her at some party with her 'studenty' friends...! (getting so bored of her having never grown up past the stage of 'me me me'...!) People are shit sometimes is all I can say on the matter 😡😢😭 HUGS 💪💪💪💪💪💪

@MrsS I just need to concentrate on the friends who I know truly give a shit about me and my life...and who fill me in on aspects of their lives....there's only so much crap you can take...Sunday night and yesterday...I spent feeling guilty for feeling this way, knowing that my friend was at the funeral of her dad...but then I realised that if I hadn't of asked when it was on Sunday night...I wouldn't have known at all...so why bust a gut trying to get someone to pick up kids, look after my twin girls, when I wasn't even told??....feel a lot better today though...thanks for listening Hun 😘😘😘😘😘

@misslittleDHP Great stuff. It's hard sometimes... I have an ex-friend I used to feel really guilty about (her dad's schizophrenic, her mum a bit useless, she's had anorexia / bulimia, etc...) then I realised, hey! She left me out in the cold, she never shared anything, I had to prise it all out of her, then she cut me off - why should I bother to try soooooo hard, just to have the door closed in my face all the time? If she needs me, I'm here, but I am not going to chase her, my life's not too rosy either!!! Glad you're feeling better xxxx

@MrsS couldn't have said it better myself Hun...here's to not feeling guilty over crap friends 🍸🍸🍸🍸🍸

@misslittleDHP 🍸🍻🍸🍻💄👠👠 👍 😄😄👗

Aww been there..done that. I began to doubt my friends but then at least one of them saved me. Now me and her are bffs and we have eachothers backs when the others are jerks like that

@KikuHonda that's a lovely outcome Hun ...I'm going to concentrate more on the true friends I have and just go with the flow of the others Hun 😃😃

Ahhh, I see. Hope you're feeling better now but you'll never why why they weren't telling you things if you don't ask. Make sure it wasn't misguided kindness before you cut the cord. Maybe they try to protect you? ❤💪💪💪💪❤

@ckahn since it all happened Hun I decided to make a sympathy card for my friend and hand delivered it then sent a message saying if I had been told sooner I would have made the funeral, she sent me a lovely message back and a couple of the other girls have since got in touch too....I will speak to them the next time we have a girlie get together as I need to understand why...but I am feeling better about the situation now...thanks for your lovely comment my sweet ❤❤🌹🌹😘

@misslittleDHP 👍

You are a good friend😘