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The Foster Boy doesn't understand
the way a family functions
Alcoholic mother, abusive stepdad
Damaged his emotional junctions
He's wired up wrong
not his fault
And there's no one who can fix it
Loving foster parents try
But all they get is lies and shit
He doesn't want to be this way, but
change is proving hard
A few years he's been here with them now
But he's every bit as scarred

Despite the care they give him
and the love that they bestow
Academically a Grade A student
Yet emotionally, he's years below
the age that he should be at
And can't cope or communicate
Endless social workers
taking months to procrastinate
Over the best course of action
Who's help does he need?
Psychoanalyst, psychotherapist
Doctors, CBT
Abandonment, Co-dependency
They really can't agree
As to how to treat 'his issues'
But they're just too blind to see
Because no one actually asks him
What's really in his head
He knows he has a chance here
But that he'll mess it up instead

He could be part of this family,
forever if he wanted
Yet his best efforts to fit in
are difficult and stunted
In six months time at this rate
He'll be transferred back into the 'system'
It's not what he wants, & he knows he'll be fucked
But it's the only place he can function

His real mum's having her sixth kid
Another affair on a whim
Four brothers already in care
And now a sister for him
Says she's gonna get cleaned up, sort herself out and win him back
Then shoves a tenner in his hand-
Saving enough for her favourite child called crack...

He knows that she's a liar and will let him down again
It's not a matter of if
-it's just a matter of when
He lost all trust at an early age
With no nurture, bonding or care
What's good or bad, right or wrong
Who said anything about fair?

He's another kid who stood no chance, left fallen by the wayside
Lost, abandoned, misunderstood
Forever running with nowhere to hide.

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Fly10 Leigh 2012

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I know there are lots of stories that don't turn out this way & have a happy ending. This one is purely based on a personal experience of someone close to me😔

@Fly10 wow! Weird. This ours are about exactly the same thing. Have your sis check out Dr. Bruce Perry's website Trauma academy. I'll get some other resources. Somatosensory therapies are proving helpful to rewire brain. Think about how many different people in his life you can recruit to foster close, trusting relationships with him. Therapy 1 hour per week won't cut it and learning to trust in relationships is a valid therapy

@Fly10 that's such a shame

@ckahn Thank you-I'll share all that with her. She's had him in her family for five years, but the issues just don't seem to cease & there have been incidents whereby her own children(all younger) and her animals have been harmed. She's reasonably well read herself & qualified in certain areas, but she's been crying out for help for three years or so now, & just doesn't seem to get anywhere. It's reached a point whereby she's having to seriously consider whether she can continue....but she knows the consequences for him, & so is torn. Such a difficult situation for all involved 😔

@Weirdwolf It is, and so frustrating. You can just see how the cycle repeats itself again and again😔

@Fly10 so heartbreaking. My understanding is that over there in the UK you all are pretty up on mental health therapy for traumatized children. Have her read Allan Schores article relational trauma and the right brain. I believe there are some intervention considerations in that. She can google it and see if it's useful before she downloads. Its a hefty piece. Prayers for her and this boy

@Fly10 wow what a heartbreaking piece to come back with. I have no personal experience with this issue but your piece gives a great insight to how it can sometimes go. I will just say a beautiful write and wish for the best for her. X

A truly amazing write with a strong message...well done you...I have friends who are just in the process of becoming foster carers...it's heartbreaking that so many kids become damaged goods because of many factors and lack of support.

@cinders @earthbound Repost, as always, much appreciated 😌😚

@leelee101 Hello again😄 Thank for repost. And yes, it's an incredibly difficult situation she's in, & I really wouldn't know what to do either if I was in her position. Keeping my fingers crossed that something positive happens over next few months..😔

@misslittleDHP Hey 😉 Thank you for repost. I'm sure your friends have encountered similar situations. Sometimes it just seems that there is no real direction, as my sis is getting different viewpoint and advice from virtually every professional she sees(most of it conflicting). Just hoping for some positive developments before it's too late 😌

@Fly10 me too...the thing is she has to consider the needs of herself and her family whilst trying to do the best for someone who is a mess...very tricky situation, heart wrenching ...hope she gets the help before its too late :)

@Fly10 Wow! Thanks for writing this piece... "He lost all trust at an early age, with no nurture, bonding or care. What's good or bad, right or wrong, who said anything about fair" magical, excellent, very well done... A tough task, how difficult it must be...

@Barknbite Thank you for such a positive comment😊 I'm hoping it works out, but such a delicate & unpredictable situation. Just have to see what the next few months bring...😔

@Fly10 Thank you, reading your words, humbled, you have great talent...

This is so sad😿hope it has a happy ending ☺

@Fly10 you're more than welcome hun x

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@Fly10 You're welcome. 😊

@sjw Thank you-me too. I'll write about it further as & when....😌

I enjoyed that, thx

Very well written. Excellent and heart wrenching.

@osheraskin Thanks for commenting-I'm glad you liked it 😌

@Snowy Thank you-appreciate you commenting 😌

@Fly10 ;)

@Fly10 it is so hard, I hope she gets the help she needs. It makes it so much harder because of the younger children.

So sad to know children are being thrown away, and for drugs no less. Praying this will have a good if not happy ending. Heartbreaking!!! 💔

@crowncottage Thank you. She's struggling at moment, but doing her best to resolve it. Setback today as her foster son was due to have contact with his mum & she cancelled again. Only sees him for two hours every six weeks & it's third time she's cancelled....Heartbreaking😓

@Lovinmalamutes Thanks for comment😌 So difficult & such a frustrating situation. Not sure if a happy ending possible on this one😔

I will keep the family in my prayers. God can do what we can't!👼👍❤🐶

@Lovinmalamutes Thank you-appreciated🙏

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