Free Therapy

Once we become aware of the distortions in our thinking we will be able to change negative thoughts to positive ones!!

This is the first installment of Free Therapy this week.

Throughout the day we speak to ourselves. It is called self-talk. If we have negative self-talk, we are confirming negative thoughts in our minds about ourselves. These negative thoughts will carry over in regular social communications.

When we are speaking with others and something related to our self-talk is broached, we may not hear the constructive meaning behind the words. It is not what we or they say that is necessarily negative but we take those words and construct them negatively.

Stop the negative self-talk. Say the word STOP when you catch yourself thinking these negative things. Think about what others are saying to you and catch yourself from jumping directly to the negative. Did that person intend for you to take what they said as ridicule or accusation? Probably not.

Those of us that battle negative self-talk may only hear negative connotations when someone is just trying to bring a valid point to our attention or even express their own feelings or concerns. Don't allow the negative to immediately control what could be a positive influence.

When speaking to ourselves and with others about difficult things we should be more aware of the good things that could come from self awareness. No one wants to be reprimanded. But if we distort a reprimand or constructive criticism as always being for the worse we can not grow as individuals. Positive change can come from positive inner-thoughts and just as ills can be made into positive outcome.

From here on, we are better able to identify whether or not the thoughts are justified in bringing positive growth. The better identifying these forethoughts - the better able we become at creating positive affirmations. The more positive our self-talk the greater we will become at inner-peace, not playing the victim, or feeling under attack by ourselves or those around us that mean no harm.

Again, once we become aware of the distortions in our thinking we will be able to change negative thoughts to positive ones!!