A Letter To Nan

Oh i so feel for you. It's just awful watching this happen. Sending many hugs. 😔💚

Any advice gratefully received

This brought tears to my eyes when I saw my mum back in the summer she looked so frail and was was getting confused very easily she's my mums mum and lives in Mexico but she doesn't want to come and live in England my uncle has just moved her in with them so at least she's getting round the clock care and lots of company really feel for you 😔

I am so sorry. I cared for my mother and it's so hard to see the decline! 🙍

Nan not mum* I've been doing that all day autocorrect grrr

@eddie12309 it's so hard with her refusing to get referred to get proper diagnosis I'm totally at a loss now. She has a gp app on Thursday I'm planning to gate crash it to see if I can get help

This brought tears to my eyes. Such an emotional write. Big hugs honey 💪💪😘❤

@sjw I'd move my nan in with me tomorrow if she would let me, it's the lack of diagnosis that's frustrating me at the minute @crowncottage you know the decline would/will be easier to cope with if she seeked medical help,

@tetti2 its very hard as they won't think there is anything wrong. We've watched several relatives decline to dimentia or alzeimers. The only advice I can give is to support, but ask if you can accompany her or send an email/ letter to doctor before hand. There are charities that can help you. 😘

As you said, it will get to the point where it will be taken out of her hands. It is so terrifying to fear what lies ahead. At least she has your love to help her! 😌

My friend is going through something similar with her nan she has got medical help but they still haven't managed to diagnose anything they just keep giving her tests it's been months and the family are still none the wiser, could you not get the Dr to come out to see her maybe?

@eddie12309 when I said gatecrash it was in jest, I've told nan I'm going with her. Email to gp could b an idea though if Thursday doesn't happen

@sjw a home visit could b a thought actually if I can get nan to agree to it then it could be an option as at the minute when we get to surgery she swears at them and walks out 😂 only amusing part at the minute

@tetti2 it may be helpful for them to know her symptoms as she won't tell them.

@eddie12309 @sjw @crowncottage @sammielee46 thanks ladies you have stopped my crying now and I feel a little more refocused. 💛💛

Awww well at least she's still got her fighting spirit 😊

I got the GP to arrange for an expert to come out to assess my Mum, and I was advised to get a social worker on board as soon as possible. Once you get the ball rolling things get a bit easier. Perhaps you could reassure her that they have medication that really helps with memory and confusion now. (Then keep your fingers crossed that she lives in the right post code!)

@crowncottage other than your help did your mum get help from local authorities with coping at home?

I had moved her in with me by then, but we did get help. I got a care allowance and you don't have to live in the same house. We had carers coming in morning and evening to help with bathing etc. She would definitely get help, the allowances help pay for the help!

My husbands gran has some care each day which they were assessed for when her husband was alive. But now his mum pays privately for it now.

Oh this has me in tears as I can relate, my nan is like my mum and I can't bear the thought of her being ill and upset...I hope you get things in motion ...you share an incredible bond, hold on to that during this tough time, I truly hope you get it sorted real soon...big huggies 💪💪💪💪💪💪💪💪💪💪💪😘😘😘😘

@misslittleDHP thanks Kim x

@tetti2 I went through this with my nan too,it's heartbreaking but the glimpses of the nan you used to know are all the more heartwarming ❤😘