Dementia

mummy1111 • 352 followers

After talking to a relative of a service user at work I came up with this poem x

My mother has dementia
It breaks my heart in two,
To realize the one you love
Can not remember you.

She thinks that I'm a friendly face
Who comes to see her in "that" place.
Her life of memories has been erased
She feels unwanted and displaced.

I try to talk about the things
That meant so much to her
But all that she remembers now
Is just a tangled blur.

Today is like tomorrow was
And yesterday the same
I spend an hour and then go home
And have no one to blame.

The dementia has her in its grip
There's nothing I can say
Except, dear mom, I'm so afraid
I'll end up the same way.

#aging #alzheimers #emotional-poetry #family-relationships #general #memory-loss

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PoppyA

May 23, 2012 at 4:31 PM

@mummy1111 ; this is so beautifully sad. I'm a healthcare recruitment consultant so supply carers and nurses to nursing and residential homes in Lincolnshire. It breaks my heart to speak to some of the service users and their relatives sometimes. Have a lot of respect for your profession, and all of my carers and nurses 💗

velvetscorpion1972

May 23, 2012 at 4:44 PM

I used to be a support worker and this is very apt and beautifully said ... Hugs and love xxx

Butter

May 23, 2012 at 4:46 PM

this is so sad...😿💗💗💗💗

mummy1111

May 23, 2012 at 4:55 PM

@PoppyA @velvetscorpion1972 @Butter I admire the families so much. X

crowncottage

May 23, 2012 at 5:23 PM

That is lovely. I cared for my mother who had alzheimers, it was heartbreaking to see a loving, intelligent woman, confused and unhappy. I told one of my sons, 'don't be sad if I die, but you can be upset if I end up like that.' a friend wrote a lovely poem for me after she died, I will post it.