Could do with some advice if possible!
My son has a form of autism called aspergers syndrome,he's ten years old and doesn't know,but we have decided now is the time to tell him as he's started to realise he's a bit different,does anybody know the best way to go about it? Had conflicting advice from the so called experts! or has anybody got aspergers and any advice maybe? Thankyou
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My brother has a milder condition, we told him calmly and clearly. Explain in a logical way, don't use metaphors to make it easier as for them it just seems more confusing. Reinforce how much you love him with a big hug after too. My families opinion anyway. Good luck πππ
I work with a Senco and have a friend who has a child with autism. I'm sure she would be happy to help you. π
Wow. Well... Not something I was going to bring up, but.. We think our eldest may be on the spectrum too - just awaiting a meet with a local centre to start possible tests π It is unbelievably hard to deal with (even at the milder Aspergers end of the spectrum, so goodness only knows how people deal with severe difficulties) My heart goes out to you. @naaviie seems to have made some very good suggestions. I myself would love to offer help, but to be open, I am kinda drowning in it here, so I'm sure you'll do better than I am anyway π Best of luck - having love and support are probably a huge part of the battle won in themselves ππππβ€ππβ€π
Another way of looking at it is he could be realived that there is a reason y he feels different? When he is having an episode at least he potentially will understand y. My childminders son has it and my best friends daughter. I'm sure you'll work out the right way x
Tell him and try to explain what it is,if he doesn't know. If its a mild case try to explain that he isn't much different from other people. My brothers friend has a mild case and I didn't know until my brother told me.
Unable to offer any practical advice other than, don't make a big thing of it! Yes I know that sounds tough but as the father of a physically handicapped 6 year old we have found treating her as any other child gives her emotional stability. I think that is important in a world which encourages us all to embrace difference! Praying for you broπ
@merlin1038 @MrsS @naaviie @KikuHonda @Burrfoot @tetti2 @eddie12309 @iPuss wow! Wasn't expecting such a great response! Thankyou all,all advice is gladly received thankyou! I think it's so important to get it right first time,he's so clever and I don't want him withdrawing or getting upset about it so I'm taking all your advice on board,thankyou all π amazing people β€
@MrsS we've been through all the tests over the past few years so if you want to chat it know anything you know where I am ok π
@gazplend Thanks, may take you up on that... Need to sleep now though, thoroughly exhausted!! Thanks again and I'm sure you'll make a fantastic job of talking to him about it πππ
@merlin1038 @MrsS agree with what's been said...my son who is nearly 10 was diagnosed with high functioning Aspergers...about 2 yrs ago...obviously something's stress him out but we find just be open and honest quite often keeps his anxiety under control...for the most part we treat him just the same...yes he has funny little traits but to be honest it's him and we all love him for it...we haven't discussed about Aspergers not until a time should we feel he needs to discuss it...for at the moment he copes very we.., does brilliantly at school, so we will cross that bridge when we come to it...good luck Hun hope it all goes well, as long as they know they have love and support, they will thrive...ππππππ
@misslittleDHP thanks Kim,he's doing really well but he's started saying his brains not working right and getting frustrated so I think he needs to know,he's a big character and the aspergers makes him who he is,good to know there's others to chat to about it,thanks babe ππ
@gazplend he sounds fun...see my son is quiet...loves computer games and riding his bike...a very deep thinker...your son def needs THE CHAT as like you say he's aware of it...thinking of you Hun ππ
@misslittleDHP my sons playing video games now! Bought him a new game last night for ps3 and he just bought it down chucked it on the table and said 'finished!' haha πππ
@naaviie I agree with you completely. One of my friend's sisters has autism (only her's is a bit more severe than your son's) that's definitely the best way to tell him.
Good luck Gary, can't go wrong with honesty, being straightforward and open. Everyone here has said some great stuff, really feel for you all dealing with it as I know how difficult my brother is. Mucho love πππ thanks for agreeing @nikujagagirl
@gazplend I can relate to what your going through although my son was only diagnosed last year aged 18 years. He accepted the diagnosis better than I did. Sounds like your son has taken the news of diagnosis well. Sounds like we have a little autistic support network for parents here. Lots of love πππ
@Faith get on at high school next year! But yes your right,I knew there would be some help advice available on here,truly great people here ππ
@gazplend because he didn't get a diagnosis until he had left school he really struggled at school, mainly from the age of 14yrs, bullying was a feature that led to avoidance of school. I think your son is in a much better position however as he has diagnosis early enough to get correct support in place to ensure his educational and emotional needs are met.
@Faith aw poor lad! That must have been horrible for him! And you! Fingers crossed my son copes ok,he's got a great bunch of friends who understand him and look after him so hopefully they will go to same school ππ
@gazplend that sounds wonderful. Long may it continue!! I'm sending you and your family lots of love πππ
As a wheelchair user and I have brittle bone disease, I think you just have to be calm about it, and don't treat him different to how you have been treating him. My friends have grown up with me and don't even look at my chair anymore, so his friends won't notice any different. He'll be fine :) π
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