Fathers Day Blues

Conflicting times. I guess it's something that he wants to get in touch x big hug x

It's a wonder any of us grow up to be 'normal' it is so hard trying to raise well balanced children when we have such traumatic backgrounds. Can only do our best and hope for the best! I had a wonderful mother but a father who was useless and absent! My Opuss post, it's wonderful, gives some hope that the calamity can end. (fingers crossed!) 😄

@Liza yeah it's a weird one, I think he afraid of rejection as he has known where we live for many years now but never bothered. Now he getting this money he wants to give it to us to "make up for the past" (dunno if that says more about him or what he thinks of us, Lmfao) thank you for the big hug 💐😘

@crowncottage yeah so true and Jim Morrison of The Doors said "every house repeats a mould" and that quote can relate to many common causes and issues I guess. Like you my mum is cool but I supposed she just liked the "bad boys" too much probably due to her own messed up childhood so they maybe had some things in common or something lol (I'll read you post now) thank you hun 💐

Lol hey never knock it if your getting money lol. But I know what you mean. I think i wouldn't care if my dad got in contact but then I think, he is a part of my life I know nothing about. It's frustrating not knowing who he is. That said whatever, your tough guy who grew up strong and smart enough without him. But maybe be understanding with your sis x hope u don't mind me saying. Us girls can be a soppy bunch 😉

@smellyfingers

@Liza yeah that's how I feel/think about it now, as disturbing as it will be to hear about his past I'm quite intrigued and I guess it took some bollocks to leave us, wanting us to have a "better life" due to his abuse (if you know what I mean?) yeah I'm cool with my sis hun and totally get why she wants the money it's all good, just not for me lol 😘

Thank you @Delilah for RP babes 😘

As long as you do what keeps you happy x hug x

@smellyfingers no problemo chick 😊😘

If you do want to talk more about it I'm here. Would also be nice for me to here and believe there was a gd reason my dad left. Sorry my slightly selfish side. But really if you need anything im here x

@crowncottage totally agree with you...@smellyfingers you do what you got to do my lovely...curiosity is just wanting to answer the unanswered...my dad is quite wealthy and my brother, who is not my dads son, and my mum say I am entitled to his money...but I couldn't care less about it, it will ever make up for all the lost years that dad and I never had a conventional relationship...good luck with your dad...a really heartfelt write by the way xx

What a write. Hope it all works out for you if you do meet mate 👍😊

Asses babe this is really sad to read, sometimes we condem people without hearing their side of the story I think it's good that you want to hear his side, I really hope it gives you some sort of peace, sending you a massive virtual hug xx

That should read awwww not asses this friggin auto correct! 🙎

Life always throws a curveball to blindside you doesn't it? Difficult one to deal with, purely due to the unknown element I guess. I find it's often difficult to predict whether such event end up posing more questions than they answer. But only one way to find out! And maybe expect the unexpectedly

@Liza thank you darling that's really nice of you and no need to be sorry hun it's all good 😘

BLOODY send button has been doing that a lot lately, & ALWAYS at the end of some rambling, extensive comment! (perhaps its dropping me a hint?!) I was trying to say, perhaps expect the unexpected. My dad lives a few miles down the road from me, but despite the fact that he WAS around when I was growing up, we see very little of each other. He's messed up & always has been. There's so much in the past I've wanted to ask him...why he did what he did, whether certain hideous things I heard were true etc. In the end, I actually decided I didn't really want to know anymore-it wouldn't change anything, the past was the past & that was that. I can see, however, how your situation differs, & how SOME answers, may actually prove beneficial & productive. I wish you the best of luck my friend & will be thinking of you 😌😘

@misslittleDHP yeah me sis and mum say I'm entitled to it and if I don't take it they will and keep it by for me but I couldn't give a crap about money and I am who I am because of my past. I just reckon it be interesting to hear his story. I have read a few things and watch documentaries on the Irish institutional abuse and as horrific and disturbing as all that is I'm quite interested in it do should be good. Thank you babe and for repost 😘🍸

@Fly10 yeah it definately is an interesting one, having had heard 1 side of the story, altho mum always says it how it is and is honest (chip off the old block) it might be a good time to hear his side of things, I can honestly say I don't lose any sleep over it tho as to me his is just a name from me mums past, I have no memories of him and as said in poem step dad is/was my dad having had first 11 years of my life with him, being that young we obviously think the sun shines out of their arse (if they good to us that is), it's only with age we may find out otherwise. Thank you hun much appreciated and for repost, these 👠 or these 👡?? 😍😘

@leelee101 thank you sir, I'm sure it will be fine just felt like writing about it as its fathers day and all that pmsl 🍻👍

I'm love heels & used to wear them daily. Still got a stack of

@sjw thank you babe, for years I couldn't be arsed due to having no memores ect, after having kids meself and learning a little more about him I think it be good for all involved to meet. Thank to for the hug, you're very lovely 😍😘

@LivingDeadGirl thank you for repost 👍

Hmm...decisions. I love heels & used to wear them daily to work. But a change of career means I'm usually a trainers gal now (altho kick ass heels still pride of place in wardrobe!) So could I have some of those please? As per my genetics, I like to be ready for 'fight or flight'! 😄😄😘

@smellyfingers this is very heartfelt I enjoyed reading it hope your evening goes better.

@smellyfingers Good Luck, hope it all goes well, maybe you'll at least be able to put some demons to rest x (my demon rests, but unfortunately, he IS my dad - too late for me! Oh well, life goes on......!) I truly hope you can find peace with it all x

Yes, knowing why might not be the answer but good luck in your quest...

Sheesh, tricky... hugs

Your welcome babe 😽